Benjamin Murphy
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Benjamin Murphy
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Sermon Series Highlights

Personal Family Business

The Business of Disciplining

Introduction:

Proverbs 23:13 - Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.

Hebrews 12:11 - For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

A "ROD" of Discipline - Some DO's and DON'Ts (Ephesians 6:1-4; Proverbs 23:13)

Rebuke the Heart , not just Behavior. (Prov 4:23)

Proverbs 4:23 - Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

  • DO pick the Right Battles .
  • DON'T hang Apples on the tree .
  • DO discuss heart matters at times of Non-conflict .
  • DON'T miss the Gospel Opportunity .
Operate in God's Authority , not just Your Own. (Prov 3:11-12)

Proverbs 3:11-‬12 - My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline or be weary of His reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom He loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.

  • DO point them to God's Authority in Discipline .
  • DON'T forget that they are God's Children First .
  • DO seek Forgiveness from your kids When you Fail .
  • DON'T Undermine other authorities.
Deliver in Love , not just In Reaction. (Prov 13:24)

Proverbs 13:24 - Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

  • DO keep Love Primary .
  • DON'T Give Up in the process.

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Small Group Discussion
Read Ephesians 6:1-4

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage/message?

  2. Where do you struggle with getting to the heart issues? How can you grow in this?

  3. How can you better operate in God’s authority in the area of discipline?

  4. Why is delivering discipline in love so important? What do you need to do better here?

  5. Discuss any other parenting DO’s and DON’T’s for disciplining.

Breakout
Pray for one another!

The Business of Discipling

Introduction:

Ephesians 6:4 - Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

How Can I Disciple My Kids? (Deuteronomy 6:1-9)

  1. By prioritizing God above Anything and Everyone . (Duet 6:1-6)

    Matthew 10:37 - "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me."

    1 Peter 1:8 - Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory.

  2. By teaching the Word of God Every Single Day . (Duet 6:1-7)

    Types of Teaching:

    1. Planned Devotional times.
    2. Off the Cuff chats.
    3. Milestone Celebrations .
  3. By having God's expectations be The House Rules . (Duet 6:8-9)

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Small Group Discussion
Read Deuteronomy 6:1-9

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage/message?

  2. Why do so many parents feel unequipped to disciple their children?

  3. What does a Jesus-centric home look like? Why is it destructive to put a spouse or child before the Lord on your list of priorities?

  4. What are the three specific ways to teach your kids the truth every day? How is the Lord calling you to implement these types of teaching into your family life or encourage someone else to do so?

  5. Why isn’t it legalistic or unloving to have biblical rules and expectations in your home?

Breakout
Pray for one another!

The Business of Loving

Introduction:

(Ephesians 5:25-33)

  1. Love your wives... because You have no alternative . (Eph 5:25)

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7 - Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

    Matthew 22:39 - You shall love your neighbor as yourself.

    Matthew 5:44-45 - But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven.

  2. Love your wives... by What you say . (Eph 5:26-27)
    1. Holy words.
    2. Loving words.
    3. Checked words.
  3. Love your wives... by What you do . (Eph 5:28-30)
    1. Checked actions.
    2. Affectionate actions.
    3. Sacrificial actions.

      4. Genesis 2:15 - The LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.

  4. Love your wives... as A living gospel . (Eph 5:31-33)

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Small Group Discussion
Read Ephesians 5:25-33

  1. What portion of the Scripture or the message challenged you most?

  2. Read Romans 5:8-10. In view of these verses and the verses presented in point 2, what rationale or reason do you have to not love your wife?

  3. What are some cultural reasons why husbands find it difficult to express love for their wives? What are Biblical reasons why husbands must express love for their wives?

  4. Does Ephesians 5:31-33 change your understanding about the purpose of your marriage? In what ways?

  5. What is one thing you will commit to doing this week so that your marriage will accurately present the gospel?

Breakout
Pray for one another!

The Business of Submission

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Small Group Discussion
Read Ephesians 5:22-24

  1. What was your big take-away from this passage / message?

  2. Why do you think this topic (wives submitting to their husbands) gets such an emotional reaction?

  3. What do you think is the biggest motivator for wives to submit to their husbands? Why?

  4. List some specific blessings that come to wives when they submit to their husbands.

Breakout
Pray for one another!