Praying For a Servant Heart

April 2020

Servant. Would you be offended if someone or one of your children called you a servant? Or would you take it as a compliment? In today’s world, people strive for control and are eager to be first. Our culture doesn’t always reward people who are being selfless. Which may make you question, “why would I want my child to have a servant heart, I want my child to be on top!” But looking at it biblically, we see that Jesus came to serve! And he told the disciple, “whoever wants to be great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave - Just as the Son of man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many”. Matthew 20:26-28. 

So when you begin to pray for your child to have a servant heart, you are praying for them to be more like Jesus. Someone once said a servant's heart will get excited about making someone else successful. Do you encourage your kids to do that? In John 15:12-13, Jesus says, “Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” God sees all of our little acts of service! Holding the door for someone, letting a sibling go first, or sharing a toy or getting something for someone when they ask. And let’s face it, older siblings ask younger siblings to get things for them all the time. Do you intervene and tell your younger child not to do it or do you allow the younger sibling to go and happily get whatever their big sister or brother wants?

Reading this chapter, Praying for Your Child to have a Servant Heart, made me look at things different. My oldest child is always asking my younger 2 kids to always get things for her. The first few times I ignored it and my younger daughter would happily run off and grab the item for her sister. Then, I started to intervene and make my oldest go get it herself. But then reading this made me think I could be using these opportunities to encourage my younger two how to have a servant's heart and do these things with a good attitude. Now trust me, I still have talks with the eldest about not abusing her siblings in this way. But using all of this as a teachable moment for everyone. 

Keep an eye out for the small acts of service your child does for anyone and encourage that behavior and how to do all things as if they were actually serving Christ! You can use and even pray, Colossians 3:23-24, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving”. While praying, you can also pray for your child’s attitude. That their attitude be the same as Jesus and that any bad attitudes turn into kindness, compassion, generosity, and selflessness. Pray that they will want to go the extra mile for others and they do not becoming weary from doing good. (Galatians 6:9).


Here are a few samples from the chapter; 

Heavenly Father…..

Don’t let _____ become weary in doing good. Let him know that at the proper time he will reap a harvest if he does not give up.

Galatians 6:9 

Teach _____ that if she wants to become great, she must be a servant. If she wants to be first, she must be a slave - just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many. 

Matthew 20:26-28 

Let _____ do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than himself. Let him look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others, and let his attitude be the same as that of Christ Jesus. 

Philippians 2: 3-5 


As it is looking, I do not think we are going to be able to meet April 19th for our next NGP group.

If you would like a full copy of the all the prayers used in this Chapter, email me at amoll@harvestpittsburghnorth.org 


Citation:

Berndt, Jodie. Praying the Scriptures for your Children: Pg 76-86, 2001 

Praying For a Your Child’s Transition into Adulthood

March 2020

Traditionally, when you think about transitioning into adulthood, your first thoughts are finishing school, leaving home, getting a job, getting married, then having kids. But today, we see more and more people doing these steps out of order, taking steps back, or completely skipping steps. As our children are learning to enter into the adult world on their own, we must remember that God’s ways are not always our ways and we should be praying for our children during this time of transition. It is also important that as our children are figuring out which path to take in adulthood, we should be praying for them to be wise and to make the most out of every opportunity given to them. 

God has given our children their own talents and gifts. In Praying the Scriptures For Your Children and in my monthly prayer meeting we have discussed the importance of praying for our child’s gifts. These gifts will be used for the rest of their lives. We are here to help encourage and help our children figure out what their gifts and talents are. These gifts and talents will also be used in adulthood and guide them down the path that God wants them. We need to remember to trust that God is going to put our children where He wants them to be. 

As our children get older and try to figure out life on their own and there may even be times where we as parents try to nudge them toward a certain path, sometimes those paths might not line up with God’s design, and they may end up making the wrong decisions. During these times we must remember to see our kids the same way God sees them. That, no matter what, He loves them and He will always be there with open arms. We need to do the same. Also, not just in times of trial with our kids we must always set regular times of prayer for each child. Jean Fleming (author of A Mother’s Heart: A look at Values, Vision, and Character for the Christian Mother) suggest as we pray for our kids we should: 

  • Acknowledge God’s hand on their lives, even before they were born.

  • Admit any areas we resent in the way God put our children together

  • Accept God’s design for each child, thanking him for how he or she is made. 

  • Affirm God’s purpose in creating our children for his glory

  • Ally ourselves with God in his plans for their lives. 

It isn’t easy trusting God’s plan for our kids. But we need to remember  that He loves them more than we do, and He promises in Romans 8:28 to work in all things for the good of those who love him. So we need to trust God and let Him be in control. 

After I have reread this chapter in preparation for this blog and my upcoming prayer meeting, it made me realize that in just a few short years, my 15 year old (almost 16)  will be entering into this next stage of adulthood and my husband and I need to start preparing her and ourselves for this next step. There are so many options she has to pick from, and me loving to be in control, I need to step back and let God be in control. I need to trust that He is going to work all things for His good! 


Here are a few prayers that we will be using on March 15th at the next NGP meeting: 

Prayer for yourself (every mama will need these) 

Heavenly Father, When my child’s transition to adulthood doesn’t look like I thought it would, help me to trust that your thoughts and your ways are higher and better than mine. 

Isaiah 55:8-9 

Prayers for your children

Heavenly Father, No matter what _____ is planning (for her career, marriage, or anything else), may it be your purpose that prevails.

Proverbs 19:21

Prompt _____ to seek you as she makes decisions about marriage, family, and career since you know how she is wired (“woven together”) and what her future holds. 

Psalm 139: 15-16

As _____ reaches adulthood, may he put childishness behind him and learn to think, speak, and reason like a man. 

1 Corinthians 13:11


Join us on Sunday, March 15th at 6:30 pm in the Harvest Kids wing for more scripture based  prayers on praying for your child’s transition into adulthood. 


Citation:

Berndt, Jodie. (2017) Praying the Scriptures for Your Adult Children, (pg 40-53).

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Praying For a Humble, Teachable Heart

February 2020

Humble. My teenager has asked my husband and I what that word means many times. Trying to explain it is hard and even harder for a teenager to understand. When you google the word humble, this is what it says its meaning is; adjective- having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance. And as a verb- lower indignity or importance (google.com) One way we explained it to our daughter was, putting others needs before you own. For a teenager that concept can be pretty hard to understand. That's why we should be praying for our children to have a humble heart. It doesn't come naturally to any human and is even good to be praying for ourselves! 

God wants us to be humble and teachable at all times. He uses our peers, coaches, parents, teachers, and bosses to help us accept things we may not understand. God doesn't want us to be stubborn, proud or wanting to quit or argue when we don't understand why we didn't get our way or what we want. When we humble ourselves to our peers, teachers or coaches we help make their lives easier instead of arguing with them. If we can pray for our children to accept things and not fight back and to be humble when something occurs that they may not agree with, then they will be able t o respect and obey God when He commands them to do something that they may not want to do or understand why to do it. 

One of the stories from this chapter in the book Praying the Scriptures for Your Teenager (pg 43) the mom states “ I think that is how God looks at us. He is always watching us to see how we respond to corrections and how we react when things don't go our way”. I agree with this. God is always watching. And if we respond in a negative way when we don't get our way, I feel it is a sin. Negative reactions do not bring glory to God. 

Praying for your child and teen to have a humble and teachable heart and able to submit to authority will help them reap God’s rewards. 


Here are some examples of some scriptures we will be praying for our next generation at our NGP prayer group meeting February 16th at 630pm 

Teach __________ to listen to advice and accept instruction so that, in the end he will be wise. Proverbs 19:20 

Cause __________ to be submissive and respectful toward those who are older and more experienced than he is. Let him be clothed with humility, remembering that you oppose the proud but give grace to the humble, and that you will lift him up in due time.     1Peter 5:5-6 


Join us on Sunday, February 16th at 6:30 pm in the Harvest Kids wing for more scripture based  prayers on praying for your child’s spiritual protection. 

Citation: 
Berndt, Jodie. (2007) Praying the Scriptures for Your Teenagers , ( pg 43-53)

Praying for Spiritual Protection for Your Children

January 2020

Do you pray for your child(ren) on a daily basis? Is it a “Lord, please protect my child today” prayer? Or something similar and routine? I know mine get like that more often than not. Praying the same thing, at  the same time for each of my children. Covering them with a blanket prayer. Even after reading Jodie Berndt’s books “Praying the Scriptures for Your Children” , “Praying the Scriptures for Your Teenager” and “Praying the Scriptures for you Adult Children”, I still fall  into that routine prayer. And yes, God hears all of our prayers and He answers all of our prayers. There is something powerful about praying God's Word over your children.Praying for our kids does make a difference. It needs to always be with determination and don’t let it become routine and be a  half hearted mentality. 

Praying for our child’s physical protection is great, but we also need to be praying for spiritual protection too. Satan’s work can be found in books, music, movies, cults and false religions. Satan will sneak into our lives when we allow other things or interests take place of God. Ephesians 6:12 says “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against  the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms”. Demons are everywhere, and they are real. They will do anything they can to turn us and our children away from God. That is why we need to be praying for our children’s spiritual protection as well.When we pray for our children’s spiritual protection, we must do it with joy, faith, and assurance. Jesus is our rock and as he said to Peter in Matthew 16:18, “ ...and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it.”  Pray that Jesus will be your child’s rock.


The Bible has so many great verses to pray for spiritual protection. Below are a few examples that Jodie Berndt wrote in her book “Praying the Scriptures for Your Children” in the chapter “Praying for Spiritual Protection”.  In the blank you can insert your child’s name. 

Lead _____ not into temptation, but deliver her from the evil one. Matthew 6:13 

Help _____ to submit to you, O God, and to resist the devil. Make the devil flee from _____ as he draws near to you.    James 4: 7-8

Do not let anyone lead _____ astray. Cause him to do what is righteous rather than what is sinful. Thank you for sending your Son to destroy the devil’s work.    1John 3:7-8


Join us on Sunday, January 19th at 6:30 pm in the Harvest Kids wing for more scripture based  prayers on praying for your child’s spiritual protection. 

Citation: 

Berndt, Jodie. (2001) Praying the Scriptures for Your Children, 120-129

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